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HORIST: What can we do about female privilege?

<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">There are times that the proverbial battle of the sexes can be very humorous&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>There are times the battle gets ugly&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>We seem to be entering one of those latter times&period; Fortunately&comma; judging from the many male&sol;female relations of which I am personally aware&comma; the battle lines are not yet drawn among the populace&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>We seem to enjoy each other&rsquo&semi;s company&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">The vast majority of men and women I know &ndash&semi; and I bet you know &ndash&semi; seem to get along quite well&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>And <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">usually<&sol;span> when they are not getting along&comma; it has to do with personal issues&comma; not political ones&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>For sure&comma; politics has broken up some relationships&comma; but they are rare and purely anecdotal&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Because of the times we live in&comma; <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">by<&sol;span> taking on the issue from a different &ndash&semi; and dare I say&comma; a factual and rational basis &lpar;hopefully with an acceptable level of humor&rpar; &ndash&semi; the ladies of the left and their fellow &lpar;in the male sense of the word&rpar; travelers will be on the attack&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>They will call me things that I am not&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>But in these times&comma; political dialogue is based on ignorant mischaracterizations formed for politically biased purposes&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Rather than going on a long and detailed defense of my opinions regarding the opposite sex&comma; let me sum up by saying that early on in my life is took Katherine Hepburn as my ideal woman &ndash&semi; strong&comma; intelligent&period; <span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi;<&sol;span>Anyone familiar with her and her on-screen characters will know me as an admirer and advocate for strong women&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi;<&sol;span>I am not particularly attracted to women who seem to be a dependent appendage of their spouses or significant others&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Conversely&comma; I am not drawn to women&comma; who see their gender&comma; itself&comma; as a form of social victimization&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>And I am certainly no fan of that small element of man-hating feminists &ndash&semi; the ones who see gender differences as a dichotomy between good and evil&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Woman good&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">Men<&sol;span> evil&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">I have worked with&comma; under and over women&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>&lpar;That is not meant to be a straight line but go ahead with it&comma; if you like&rpar;&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>In all my relationships&comma; I have never viewed women as a class&comma; but rather &ndash&semi; as shocking as it may seem &ndash&semi; as individuals&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Same for men&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Unlike the politically correct lemmings&comma; I also recognize that men and women ARE different&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Good <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">God<&sol;span>&excl;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>A library full of books <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">has<&sol;span> been written on the subject by both men and women with more letters behind their names than a can of alphabet soup&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>We are different physically&comma; mentally&comma; emotionally&comma; socially&comma; culturally&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>The one-size-fits-all uni-sex mandated by authoritarian governments like Stalinist Russia and Maoist China failed because the underlying realities were stronger than the arbitrarily <span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi;<&sol;span>imposed social standards&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Not only are we different&comma; we like being different&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">In today&rsquo&semi;s fictional narrative&comma; we are to believe that American men are brutal masters hovering over <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">a universally<&sol;span> oppressed womanhood&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>This is not Iran&comma; for goodness sake&period; The strident feminists describe our very genetic makeup as &ldquo&semi;toxic masculinity&period;&rdquo&semi;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>It is true that for the past 200&comma;000 years&comma; men have been generally in leadership roles and women in support roles&comma; but evolution takes time&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Even in our amazing Republic&comma; women could not vote for the first 131 years&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>It is <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">true<&sol;span> that women were rarely able to penetrate male-dominated professions&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>It is true that corporate <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">boardrooms<&sol;span> were once all-male commercial clubs&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>But&comma; the fact that we have evolved into &ldquo&semi;a <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">more<&sol;span> perfect union&comma;&rdquo&semi; does not mean that men and women can be considered equal in all things&comma; in all ways and at all times&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Because we are different&comma; there will be social differences&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Today&rsquo&semi;s political narrative would have us believe that men are privileged&comma; and women suffer from universal inferior status&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>In fact&comma; women are also privileged in many ways&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Any man who has gone through a contested divorce or faced a custody battle will have seen female privilege in our courts&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Though a man has equal responsibility in the making of a baby&comma; the future survival of that joint venture &lpar;no pun intended&rpar; is claimed solely by the woman &ndash&semi; a privilege of enormous moral importance&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">When my first wife walked out and left me with a house full of teenage kids &ndash&semi; one underage &ndash&semi; I brought up the issue of child support with my attorney&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>He laughed and said that no court <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">will<&sol;span> give a <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">man child<&sol;span> support even though he has custody&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>The same bias has been documented in studies involving property distribution&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">I have a friend who went to the police academy&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Being number one in the physical training program was a big resume enhancer&comma; but he came in number two&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Number one was a female cadet&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>She did not beat his results in any of the various physical tests but competed against a much lower standard in each<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>event&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>That is <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">privilege<&sol;span>&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">California recently passed a law that all publicly listed corporations doing business in the state must have at least one woman on the board&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>As good an idea as it may be&comma; the fact that it is mandated by <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">government<&sol;span> is a unique privilege&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Being considered a protected class creates a huge range of legal privileges&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Check out the premiums for life insurance&comma; <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">and<&sol;span> you will find that women of the same age as a man pay lower premiums&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Why&quest;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">Because men and women are different in life expectancy&period;<&sol;span><span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>That is a gender-based privilege&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">The current contention that women should be automatically believed in sexual and physical assault cases is a demand for <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">privilege<&sol;span> that is both wrong and dangerous&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>That proposed privilege requires the setting aside of our rule-of-law&comma; requirements of evidence and the presumption of innocence until proven guilty&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>That is one Hell of a privilege&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Saturday Night Live did a scathing mocking of Judge Brett Kavanaugh&rsquo&semi;s angry and tearful Senate hearing&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Ponder for one second what might have been the response if they had poked fun of Christine Blasey Ford&rsquo&semi;s appearance and demeanor&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Being above criticism is <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">privilege<&sol;span>&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Feminist cry out that a woman&rsquo&semi;s voice needs to be heard&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Hillary Clinton was recently interviewed&comma; saying that women need to tell their story&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>One needs <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">to only to do a count of the talking heads on television<&sol;span> to see that there are more women talking than men&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>CNN recently aired a flattering documentary of Justice Ruth Bader Ginsberg&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>The View and Outnumbered are two programs with four female hosts&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Newspapers still carry a woman&rsquo&semi;s section &ndash&semi; and that does not make the sports section a man-only page&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">When it comes to health <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">issues&comma;<&sol;span> when was the last time you saw a march for prostate cancer&quest;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>The country is awash in pink balloons&comma; pink ribbons&comma; pink decals <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">and<&sol;span> even pink license plate frames &ndash&semi; all to fight a predominantly women&rsquo&semi;s disease&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>More privilege&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">And what about striking a woman&quest;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>It is okay for women to strike women&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>In fact&comma; that has become a form of entertainment &ndash&semi; with bikini mud wrestling having <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">a peculiar<&sol;span> popularity&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>But never&comma; under no circumstances&comma; should a man strike a woman &ndash&semi; not in defense&comma; not even if attacked by a woman&comma; not even <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">if<&sol;span> you are a little guy attacked by a big tough woman&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Never&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">I am an equal opportunity guy with that issue&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>I have never struck another person &ndash&semi; man or woman &ndash&semi; at least not since I got into a fight with Robbie Heidrick at the age of six or seven&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>I even avoided most of that corporal punishment stuff with my children&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>In that regard&comma; I am not a hands-on person&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">On the other hand&comma; I have been the victim of a number of assaults and batteries in my lifetime &ndash&semi; again men and women &ndash&semi; but I did what the Bible admonishes and turned the other cheek&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Or&comma; as my friends prefer to describe it&comma; I ran away like a chicken shit&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>In either case&comma; the result was the same&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Any guy who likes beer as much as Judge Brett Kavanaugh knows that those <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">ubiquitous<&sol;span> meet-market bars often feature ladies&rsquo&semi; nights in which the women have reduced prices for the drinks &ndash&semi; and in many cases&comma; free drinks&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>And although it is ebbing&comma; men usually pay on dates&period; That is <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">privilege<&sol;span>&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">And check out the better restaurants&comma; theaters <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">and<&sol;span> hotels and you find that men have toilets and woman have fancy lounges&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Okay&comma; that is getting silly&comma; but you get the point&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Alas&comma; as women entered the highly competitive business and political worlds&comma; the pedestal has been commensurately lowered&period; Men no longer walk on the outside of the sidewalk to prevent passing carriages from splattering water and mud on those ankle-covering wide dresses&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Gone are the days when women sat patiently in the passenger seat of a car while her male chauffer came around to open the door&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Men would give up a seat on the bus even to a young woman&comma; and we stood whenever a lady arrived or departed the dinner table&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Men no long doff their hat as they meet or pass a woman in the public commons &ndash&semi; but then again&comma; we are not likely to be wearing a hat&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p class&equals;"MsoNormal">Our national landscape is strewn with the shards of one-time glass ceilings&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>There <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">are<&sol;span> not a lot yet to be shattered&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>Even as we pursue <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">equal<&sol;span> opportunity for women&comma; we can still mutually recognize many of the advantages women have and do enjoy&period;<span style&equals;"mso-spacerun&colon; yes&semi;">&nbsp&semi; <&sol;span>It is not a <span style&equals;"mso-no-proof&colon; yes&semi;">one-way<&sol;span> street&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;

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