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HORIST: Warn your sons. Don’t date radical feminists.*

<p><em>&ast;This is not a reference to all women with liberal views&comma; but to that narrow band of humorless man-hating extremists for whom all issues are vaginal&period;<&sol;em><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>A friend of mine has been a successful Hollywood scriptwriter for decades&period;&nbsp&semi; He hails from New York City and is a very liberal Democrat&period;&nbsp&semi; In discussing the current wave of accusations of inappropriate sexual activity that appears to be pandemic&comma; if you believe all the coverage&comma; we seem to be of like mind&period;&nbsp&semi;&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Both of us have never been around men who would rape women or even use the power of position to force women into sexual gratification&period;&nbsp&semi; We had not even heard of complaints by female friends and co-workers alleging such behavior&comma; and my friend spent most of his adult life in the heart of the Hollywood culture&period;&nbsp&semi; No&comma; not everyone knew what Harvey Weinstein was doing&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>In my career in politics&comma; I heard a few rumors about politicians cheating on their spouses&comma; but never the kind of things Harvey Weinstein&comma; Roy Moore and Al Franken are accused of doing&period;&nbsp&semi; Never ran across any pedophiles or even guys accused of preying on kids&period;&nbsp&semi;&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>In my Washington days&comma; I knew of one member of Congress who had a few ladies on his staff whose job it was to please other members of Congress and friendly lobbyists&period;&nbsp&semi; I know that to be the case because I was offered those services by a woman who later brought scandal to a powerful committee chairman&period;&nbsp&semi; Oh&excl; No&comma; I did not take her up on the offer&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>It would never have occurred to me that Weinstein&rsquo&semi;s practice of popping up naked &lpar;no pun intended&rpar; at an alleged business meeting was a terribly good approach to seduction&period;&nbsp&semi; Flowers and candy are the more traditional methods&period;&nbsp&semi; Or as the old saying goes&colon; &ldquo&semi;Candy is dandy&comma; but liquor is quicker&period;&rdquo&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>In a nation of 320 million people&comma; the news is inundated with less than 100 cases of public accusations of improper behavior &ndash&semi; and even most of those do not rise to criminal behavior&period;&nbsp&semi; Inappropriate&quest;&nbsp&semi; Perhaps&period;&nbsp&semi; Boorish&quest;&nbsp&semi; Maybe&period;&nbsp&semi; But far from criminal&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>My friend and I found agreement in our concern that we are entering a dangerous phase in the battle of the sexes&period;&nbsp&semi; We are beginning to criminalize boorish behavior &ndash&semi; or even worse&comma; normal mating behavior&period; Or even worse than that&comma; totally innocent behavior&period;&nbsp&semi;&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>The photo at the top of the commentary is one of dozens of similar images I found in searching &ldquo&semi;sexual harassment&period;&rdquo&semi; They all depict a man&rsquo&semi;s hand on a woman&rsquo&semi;s shoulder&comma; with a look of displeasure on the lady&rsquo&semi;s face&period;&nbsp&semi; The problem with these photos is that they transform a perfectly natural touch&comma; that is not&&num;8230&semi; repeat&comma; not &&num;8230&semi; in any way sexual or seductive&comma; into an equivalency with sexual misconduct&period;&nbsp&semi;&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>If that is true&comma; former Vice President Joe Biden is just another powerful man who should be heading to the slammer as a serial sex abuser &lpar;left&rpar;&period;&nbsp&semi; And former President George Bush is giving foreign affairs a whole new meaning&period;&nbsp&semi; Why aren&rsquo&semi;t these women complaining&quest;&nbsp&semi; Apparently&comma; 93-year-old President H&period;W&period; Bush now has several accusers testifying to his propensity to pat posteriors&period;&nbsp&semi; If they were too intimidated to slap the face of a president&comma; an angry &ldquo&semi;how dare you&rdquo&semi; would have settled the issue&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><center><img src&equals;"http&colon;&sol;&sol;conservativeemail&period;com&sol;images&sol;AngieMerkelBadTouch&period;jpg" alt&equals;"" width&equals;"350&quot&semi;" border&equals;"0" &sol;><br &sol;> <img src&equals;"http&colon;&sol;&sol;conservativeemail&period;com&sol;images&sol;joe1&period;jpg" alt&equals;"" width&equals;"350&quot&semi;" border&equals;"0" &sol;><br &sol;> <img src&equals;"http&colon;&sol;&sol;conservativeemail&period;com&sol;images&sol;joe2&period;jpg" alt&equals;"" width&equals;"350&quot&semi;" border&equals;"0" &sol;><br &sol;> <img src&equals;"http&colon;&sol;&sol;conservativeemail&period;com&sol;images&sol;joe3&period;jpg" alt&equals;"" width&equals;"350&quot&semi;" border&equals;"0" &sol;><&sol;center><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Such extreme expansion of sexual misconduct is not just a theory&period;&nbsp&semi; I once came across a group of women protesting in favor of abortion&period;&nbsp&semi; I approached one to ask the questions&colon; When do you believe the fetus becomes human&quest;&nbsp&semi; Her answer was&comma; &ldquo&semi;You&rsquo&semi;re a man&comma; and have no right to question me about abortion&period;&rdquo&semi;&nbsp&semi; As I raised my hand to make a follow up point &ndash&semi; coming close to her forearm &ndash&semi; she said she would cry out rape if I so much as touched her&period; I assured her that there was not the remotest chance that I would touch her for any reason&comma; but it illustrates the man-hating underpinning of so many radical feminists&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>This radical thinking is not new&period;&nbsp&semi; Decades ago&comma; the feminist took aim at the wolf whistles of construction workers&period;&nbsp&semi; They said that such action was tantamount to rape&period;&nbsp&semi; &lpar;You just cannot make this stuff up&period;&rpar;&nbsp&semi; Tell a woman who has been grabbed from behind with a knife to her throat&comma; disrobed&comma; beaten and forcibly penetrated that being the subject of a complimentary whistle has any equivalency what so ever to real rape&period;&nbsp&semi; It is not only stupid&comma; but it trivializes those victimized by a genuine rapist&period;&nbsp&semi;&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>It also disregards the many women who are flattered by the attention of men on the scaffolds&period;&nbsp&semi; Then there are those women who shrug it off as meaningless&period;&nbsp&semi; In fact&comma; I would say that the women to claim to feel violated are an extreme minority&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>The ladies of the left even have a term for the whistle&comma; the wink&comma; the smile and the roving eyes&period;&nbsp&semi; It is called &ldquo&semi;street harassment&period;&rdquo&semi;&nbsp&semi; In 2010&comma; an editorial on sexual harassment in The Guardian led with this incredible statement&colon; &ldquo&semi;Violence is not always physical&period;&rdquo&semi;&nbsp&semi; Actually&comma; it is&period;&nbsp&semi; Even assaults &lpar;behavior that engenders fear without physical contact&rpar; requires obvious physical actions &ndash&semi; like having a gun pointed at you&period;&nbsp&semi; The editorial goes on to argue that those wolf whistles are the gateway to real crimes of sexual assault and rape&period;&nbsp&semi; Using that logic&comma; I suppose that going out on a date could also be considered a gateway to rape if your date mate is a rapist&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>There has always been a line between sexual misconduct and what is commonly known as boorish behavior&period;&nbsp&semi; If we criminalize the latter&comma; we might as well start building a lot more prisons&period;&nbsp&semi; Anyone who has attended the proverbial office party knows that a little alcohol brings out boorish behavior of all kinds &ndash&semi; and it cuts across the gender divide&period;&nbsp&semi; The next day&comma; we feel embarrassed and offer up apologies&period;&nbsp&semi; We do not call the police&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>By contemporary radical feminist extreme standards&comma; I have been sexually harassed&comma; assaulted and abused on numerous occasions by aggressive women &&num;8212&semi; and a few men&comma; for that matter&period; The frequency&comma; however&comma; seems to have declined drastically as I advanced in age&period;&nbsp&semi; Pity&period;&nbsp&semi; It never occurred to me to call the police or cry out rape&comma; however&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Trying to plant a kiss on the lips of the object of one&rsquo&semi;s affection has never been considered a crime even when the effort is unwelcomed and rebuffed&period;&nbsp&semi; &nbsp&semi;In most cases&comma; such kisses are a matter of &ldquo&semi;testing the waters&period;&rdquo&semi;&nbsp&semi; It actually is a traditional and widely accepted cultural component of the mating game&period;&nbsp&semi; The person making the first move generally is uncertain of the reaction&period;&nbsp&semi; In our culture that has been more commonly the role of the man&period;&nbsp&semi; Of course&comma; that changed with the sex revolution of the 1960s after which women were empowered to be more aggressive &ndash&semi; a good change&comma; as I saw it&period;&nbsp&semi;&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>The aggressive kiss &ndash&semi; and for that matter&comma; the fanny pat &&num;8212&semi; has been memorialized in more movies than you can view in a lifetime&period;&nbsp&semi; In some cases&comma; the reluctant woman succumbs to the passion and it results in what was seen in my childhood days as a disgusting &ldquo&semi;mushy&rdquo&semi; scene&period;&nbsp&semi; In other cases&comma; the boorish smooch was angrily repulsed with that iconic and well deserved slap in the face&period;&nbsp&semi; Police were never involved&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Pinching or patting a nicely displayed gluteus maximus is a cultural tradition in some parts of the world&period; Women going to Rome are more likely to have their posterior pinched than see the Pope&period; That tradition is not without its appearances in America&period;&nbsp&semi; For several years&comma; there was a popular restaurant in Chicago&rsquo&semi;s Greek Town&period;&nbsp&semi; The proprietor was famous &ndash&semi; or infamous&comma; if you prefer &ndash&semi; for pinching and patting the lady customers&rsquo&semi; rear ends&period; Occasionally he would bounce a breast with his hand&period;&nbsp&semi; These were accompanied by compliments and friendly kisses either on the hand or the cheek &ndash&semi; the facial cheek&comma; that is&period;&nbsp&semi; There were never any complaints&comma; and his dining room was always packed with men&comma; women and couples&period;&nbsp&semi; No one called the police&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>In the more youthful dating years&comma; &ldquo&semi;copping a feel&rdquo&semi; was a regular objective in the movie theater or in the front seat of a car in some seclude locale&period;&nbsp&semi; Or maybe not so secluded&period;&nbsp&semi; In Chicago&comma; cars would line up along the lakefront to watch what we euphemistically called &ldquo&semi;submarine races&period;&rdquo&semi;&nbsp&semi; Things generally went as far as the girl would allow&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>In such moments of amore&comma; it was common to exceed the bounds of acceptability&period;&nbsp&semi; I mean&comma; how do you know the personal boundary until you cross it&quest;&nbsp&semi; Breaching the boundary generally resulted in a verbal or physical rejection that almost always ends the advance&period;&nbsp&semi; If it does not&comma; that may be a legitimate problem&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Radical feminist had an answer to my rhetorical question about not knowing the boundary &&num;8212&semi; a pre-negotiated written contract outlining what behavior is acceptable from the female&rsquo&semi;s point of view&period;&nbsp&semi; The concept that became popular on college campuses is so silly that those contracts became more the subject of humorous ridicule than an improvement to the dating ritual&period;&nbsp&semi; As far as I can tell&comma; the practice died off on the idiocy of having to commit in advance to having one&rsquo&semi;s crotch stimulated&period;&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Another scary aspect of the current wave of accusations is the contention that the woman&rsquo&semi;s word should be believed without question&period;&nbsp&semi; Sorry&comma; that is not the American way&period;&nbsp&semi; In criminal matters&comma; we have an assumption of innocence until PROVEN guilty and if becomes a matter of adjudication we have rules of evidence to which we must adhere&period;&nbsp&semi;&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>The fact that such charges may lack evidence sufficient to surpass reasonable doubt &ndash&semi; another good requirement &ndash&semi; does not mean we should throw out the legal safeguards against wrongful prosecution and turn our judicial system into a Twenty-First Century version of the Salem witch trials&period;&nbsp&semi; False accusation is not uncommon&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>Rape&comma; sexual assault&comma; sexual battery&comma; sexual intimidation&comma; sexual blackmail and sexual harassment are terrible crimes and should be met with the full force of the law&period;&nbsp&semi; To expand their definitions to include boorish behavior and even misinterpreted comments or touches is a disservice to victims of real sexual abuse and a disservice to the comity of a rational society engage in mating rituals&period;&nbsp&semi; I fear this current wave of accusations &ndash&semi; some serious&comma; some not &ndash&semi; is yet another example of hyper-political correctness that has made us too touchy about being touched&period;&nbsp&semi; And that is why I advise young men to stay away from those radical feminists who are more than willing to make ridiculous accusations of sexual impropriety when none occur or were even intended&period;<&sol;p>&NewLine;<p><em><strong>Larry Horist<&sol;strong> is a conservative activist with an extensive background in public policy and political issues&period; Clients of his consulting firm have included such conservative icons as Steve Forbes and Milton Friedman&comma; and he has served as a consultant to the White House under Presidents Nixon and Reagan&period; He has testified as an expert witness before numerous legislative bodies&comma; including the U&period; S&period; Congress and lectured at Harvard University&comma; Northwestern University&comma; Florida Atlantic University&comma; Knox College and Hope College&period; An award-winning debater&comma; his insightful and sometimes controversial commentaries appear frequently on the editorial pages of newspapers across the nation&period; He can be reached at lph&commat;thomasandjoyce&period;com&period;<&sol;em><&sol;p>&NewLine;<p>&nbsp&semi;<&sol;p>&NewLine;

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